Same here but from my inlaws...my inlaws are white Texans, in fact, one of my wife's cousins caught these hands a few years ago behind some BS said about our kids. Our lesson learned was that there are some things on that side of the family we won't be a a part of....shame that it has to be like that, but it is what it is.Yeah. It just devolves into thoughtless, ill-informed blathering. And I stay away from all that.
I don't understand that point of view, and I spent the last 4 years trying to at least understand it from that perspective. I get enough of it from factions of my own family, which I also tend to ignore and wave off.